Privacy tips for using AI companion apps
Keep your AI chats between the two of you: a separate email, smarter payment, the settings to change on day one and how to leave cleanly.
AI companions are built to get close. That's half the fun. It's also why ten minutes on privacy now saves you a headache later. None of this is about having something to hide. It's about choosing who gets to know what, which is just good manners with your own data.
For a starting point, our NSFW AI chat directory links to Candy AI, OurDream AI and SpicyChat. Use the questions below to check each provider's current privacy and security terms.
Use a separate email
Don't sign up with your main inbox. Use an address you keep for apps and subscriptions instead. Receipts, newsletters and the inevitable 'she misses you' emails all land there, and if an app ever leaks its user list, that address doesn't lead anywhere that matters.
Think about how you pay
Most sites bill under a neutral company name, and the decent ones tell you what it is before you pay. Look on the pricing page or in the FAQ. If a site won't say, that's an answer in itself.
- Card. Simplest, and your bank can step in if a site gets awkward about cancelling.
- Prepaid or virtual card. A nice middle ground, and it caps what a site can ever take.
- App store. The tidiest way to cancel, though prices are often a little higher.
While you're on that pricing page, check how you'll actually be billed. Plenty of these apps advertise a monthly price that's really charged as one yearly lump. Our reviews flag it where we've spotted it, but read the small print yourself before you hit subscribe.
Read the privacy policy (the short version)
Nobody reads the whole thing, and you don't have to. You're hunting for three answers:
| Question | What you want to see |
|---|---|
| Are my chats used to train their AI? | No, or an opt-out you can switch on |
| Can I delete my history? | Yes, from settings, without emailing support |
| Where is my data stored? | A named region and a named provider |
If a site can't answer those in plain words, think twice before you tell it your secrets.
Change these settings on day one
- Turn off chat history syncing to any device you share.
- Switch off 'improve the model' or training options if there are any.
- Put a passcode or face lock on the app if it offers one.
- Set notification previews to hide message content, so her messages stay in the app and off your lock screen.
Keep real life out of the chat
A companion will happily remember your address, your job and your full name. She doesn't need any of them to be good company. Keep real-world details out of your chats, and never upload photos of real people. On the sites we list, that's against the rules anyway (see our listing policy).
Leaving cleanly
When you're done with a site, don't just delete the app and hope.
- Cancel from inside your account and screenshot the confirmation.
- On a yearly plan, check the renewal date and cancel before it rolls over, not after.
- Delete your chats and images if you're not coming back.
If a site makes any of that hard, let us know. It counts against them the next time we rank.